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Random wisdom on how to Live Life

4 Questions to ask when life is difficult

How have I been complicit in creating the conditions

"I say" I don't want?

What am I not saying that needs to be said?

What am I saying that's not being heard?

What's being said that I am not hearing?

10 Native American Rules For Life

Remain close to ‘the Great Spirit’
Show great respect for your fellow beings.
Give assistance and kindness wherever needed.
Look after the wellbeing of mind and body.
Be truthful and honest at all times
Do what you know to be right.
Treat the Earth with respect.
Take full responsibility for your actions.
Dedicate a share of your effort to the greater good.
Work together for the good of all mankind.

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Your Mind in a Nutshell

At the core your mind is simply avoiding pain and seeking pleasure. All you have to do to overcome the scariest of things is to provide a prize great enough for the you to decide that the scariest of things is worth it.

Quotes to help you live better

The Harder you work, the luckier you get.

-Jason Sudeikus

If you pick someone you are really safe. If they pick you, you need to be careful.

-Pen Jellet

Your success in life is largely dependent on the uncomfortable conversations you aer willing to have.

Adapt, Adjust, Revise.

-Alan Alda

Be the person you needed when you were young.

The only reason to look in your neighbors bowl is

to see if they have enough.

No one ever got wet from the word water.

-Allen Watts

If you have something to say and you don't say it,

you are a liar.

-Jordan Peterson

Random sayings to help you live better

As ability and or prosperity rise,
so do expectations

The right thing to do and the hard thing to do are often the same thing

The most difficult part of Poverty is not lack of money, but the lack of goals

Live by the golden rule. Do onto others as you would have

done to you.

Understand how it differs from the silver rule. Do NOT do on to others as you would not have done to you.

Man must have a plan. If you don't have a plan you'll

become part of someone else's.

The desire to have something is always much stronger before you obtain it. No matter how good something is the shine fades exponentially after it is a possession. The only thing that sustains is the things you give to others.

Lose your shame. The person you are today is not the person

you were yesterday.
Make today the first day of the best you you can be.

Start helping others. Plastering the holes in the walls around us is the best way to patch the holes in ourselves

God feeds the birds but he does not throw the worms in the nest.

Nature loves courage. It responds to courage by

removing obstacles.

What you call man is time

We are all students and we will all graduate.

Any time you start worrying about money, in the moment just say "there is plenty more here that came from" and believe it.

The EKG has ups and downs when they stop you flat line.

Very important things to know in life

You are the ONLY person responsible for you and all that

happens to you

You are NOT responsible for anybody else in your life (exceptions: your children, relatives with disabilities, and elderly parents)

No one is perfect. You are guarenteed to have at least 2 major screw ups in your life and you will go off course many times. Learn to not beat yourself up but always work towards correcting course.

If you haven't failed at something or been rejected in the last week, you are probably not trying hard enough.

You don't want to change because your mind is telling you that everything is fine as it is.
Once you change, no matter how bad things are, your mind will tell you everything is fine as it is. So what's the difference?

Alcohol/drugs are something that helps with someone being in a state of dis-ease. Once they have quit, they are still in a state of dis-ease.

Know that God exists. Religion is a personal choice but there is something greater than us. It's signs are everywhere every day. Learn to look for them.

Death is a part of life and is inevitable. It is also unpredictable. It's harder on loved ones when it's too soon or there is suffering but do not be angry.

Learn to not shy away from pain.
Easy accomplishments give shallow rewards, difficulty and painful accomplishments give greater rewards.

Make Long term goals with smaller goals along the way...

boredom makes life last longer

The road to hell is paved with heaven.

The road to heaven is paved with hell.

The more specific you are the more relatable it is

to (more) people

The difference between a comedian and a regular person is a comedian writes their thoughts down.

The sting of Failure is not only NOT a bad thing but one of the most important tools for learning/growth.

Being a person of your word puts you on a higher level than a whole lot of people.

We choose the love we think we deserve

Andrew Forsthoefel (who walked across country on foot asking people "what advice would you give your 23 year old self.")
He said:
If I were in a car looking into the dark forest I would think it

was a scary place. But I am in that forest and I KNOW it's not a scary place.

Communication is very hard with people when you feel hurt. As humans we try to remain in a state of cooperation. Speaking up can feel painful but it must be done. If you try to keep it to yourself it will come out in other ways.

Men have intuition as well as women but is more subtle. If you have a voice in the back of your head saying you should do something or you shouldn't do something, listen to it. It's often a quiet voice.

A woman/man is a life. When you start a relationship your worlds become entangled. It's serious business and not something to ignore in the name of someone with good looks.

Learn to enjoy pain. Avoiding it is painful.

How much are you worth?

Consider how much money you make per hour at work. Think of that amount to be what "your time" is worth, especially when you are NOT at work. If something costs $10 more but will save you 2-8 hours of "your time," it may worth it. If you spend an hour arguing with someone over $5, even if it's "about the principle," it probably

isn't worth it.

Some smart people with wisdom

to help you live better

Lao Tzu

Marcus Aralias

Confucious

Jesus

Nietzche

Allan Watts

Ram Dass

Naval Ravikant

Derek Sivers

Seth Godin

Rick Ruban

Alex Hormozi

Steven Pressfield

Toni Robbins

Kyle Cease

Wayne Dyer

Napoleon Hill

Jim Rohn

Neville Goddard

Jordan Peterson

Social Rules to help you live better

1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to.

2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person who loaned it to you remembers or asks for it. It shows your integrity and character. The same goes for umbrellas, pens, and lunch boxes.

3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is treating you to lunch or dinner.

4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh, so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids?’ Or ‘Why haven't you bought a house?’ Or ‘Why haven't you bought a car?’ For God’s sake, it isn’t your problem.

5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public.

6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time.

7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember, what may seem like 6 to you might appear as 9 to someone else. Besides, a second opinion is good for an alternative.

8. Never interrupt people while they are talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all.

9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and shows how appreciative you are.

10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately.

12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will.

13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next.

14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctor's appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay." Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness.

15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed by how rudely you treat someone below you, but people will notice if you treat them

with respect.

16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at

your phone is rude.

17. Never give advice until you’re asked.

18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age or salary.

19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it.

20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreover, eye contact is as important as your speech.

21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.

22. After reading a good message, consider saying "Thanks for the message."

APPRECIATION remains the easiest way of getting what you don't have.

10 things to help you

live a better life

1. Love unconditionally

2. Live fearlessly

3. Work purposefully

4. Choose compassionately

5. Accept non-judgmentally

6. Learn continuously

7. Serve selflessly

8. Appreciate regularly

9. Forgive fully

10. Trust completely (faith)

The process for most systems in life

1. Someone creates something great.

2. People love that thing so it grows and

eventually becomes popular.

3. Selfish people cling to that thing and manipulate it

to serve them.

4. Selfish people get their way.

5. Something great deteriorates.

6. Someone else creates something new and great.

The point. Don't waste your life fighting the deterioration of something that was once great. Create something new while the selfish aren't looking.

Things to hopefully be born with or obtain during life

Ambition
Wisdom
Grit
Tenacity